Thursday, March 6, 2008

2 hours of talking in the odd hours at night..

Today i had like 2 hours of talk with my friend. This friend of mine, is really, i feel God put her to teach me how to live with my future husband, hahahah... I really enjoy discussing with her over matters... and it's not childish matter that kind (although we sometimes crap as well).. Today we talked about her matter... and gosh, woman/lady/gal is really a think-hard creature...

sometimes i wonder do we really think too much...?? but then i read somewhere in a book, it says something like "God create man and woman differently, and the fact that women think a lot, has more emotion and feelings are those few specialties that seperate women from men. If women were to think simple like guy, or has less emotion.. then God might as well create only men on earth, cuz there will be no difference between men and women right..??" from there i learn to appreciate it in a totally different way.. i think guys shouldn't complaint girls think too much, rather appreciate it as something special that (generally) guys don't have.. girls too, shouldn't complaint if guys arent being sensitive enough cuz that is what makes them different from girls, right.. instead of complaining of the differences, look in the light of our Creator and appreciate His creativity in creating men and women =>....

I wouldn't disclose what matter we discussed just now, i wil have to get her permission before i do so, which i do not intend to do so just yet... BUT anyway, The conclusion that i've got from this 2 hours discussion is, when God put us (or her) in this situation, it's time that God shows the lady party her weaknesses, and the guy party his weaknesses.. and we thank God that He helped us to see and recognise those weaknessess (yes, really thank God cuz some people failed to see His higher purpose and continue dwelling in problems) ... so what do we do when we recognise weaknesses..?? we make a decision and practical plans to improve on weaknesses..!! we learn to be an encouraging person.. we learn to see God's higher purpose in the midst of discomfort or unfavourable situations...!!! that's is how eventually "God works all things good for those who love Him", Amen..??

God loves us so much that He just cant stop pouring lessons into our lives...!!!

I have my stand, she has hers.. initially i was talking to get her to understand and (probably) agree with my points.. then later she presented her case, and tries to get me into her shoes.. eventually... i see How Creative our God is.. again i read in a book something like this "God is just too creative that He doesnt make one plan to fit everyone.. every single person on earth walks different life.. " life will be very boring if he, she, they, you, me, all think the same way, do the same thing, eat the same stuff, say the same words... isn't it..?? So now i am reminded again that God puts this kind of 'stand' in me, while that different set of 'stand' in her.. i learn to share my stand on this issue, without trying to convert hers into mine.. God has different plan for me and her.. but as her friend and that i care for her, i am sharing with her my concerns and stuff, u know buddies talk things, they dont just nod the head and walk off...

i mean, my idea of how relationship works is "trying the very best to remain purely friends, until things are confirmed that we're getting into relationship. Till then both shall not grow by leaning on each other the couple-way.. but grow by leaning on each other the pure-friendship-way"... i treasure long period of friendship.. no talking in the dark two people, no inappropriate intention in speech when saying "I Miss You, I Care For You"... no inapprpriate emotional attachment except when both are assured to be accountable for each others' emotional and spiritual well-being.. stuff like that.. lots of no no no, untill things are clear..

her ideas has changed to " people have knowledge of what is the correct and orderly way of doing things, but when it comes to really doing it, it might not appear the same yet is still acceptable"... should we actually learn as we try and experience it, it might be wrong but that is how we learn.. or should we remain in safe zone and go for it only when it is all clear, green signal from God... it is permissible to walk together through some issues with the other party..

Then again, i might think differently bcuz i am not experiencing relationship for now.. and she thinks differently because of the situation she is in now.. and God has different plans for both me and her.. He give me plan G , and her plan K... and God made our thoughts different too.. special.. God put us both in different level and situation.. special...

I wish her all the best, as we continue to learn from and encourage each other. it has always been great talking to her.. and i really enjoy it.. ten years from now, we will look back and tell our kids "mum has a good friend last time, we always discuss bout things and we learn from each other.. we learn about God and we bless each other.." stuff like that.. we will miss talking to each other too, probably.. bliss..

blah, i'm not sure if u get what i was talking throughout the whole post. haha.. but that's what i have in mind now and i really feel like posting it...

2 comments:

Lil_Jan said...

Am really touched by your post.. what u mentioned has just remind me of something really important that I din see it in my relationship too.. Thanks gurl..Am truly blessed having u gals as my hsemates..Love U all...Muacks!!!

~*~ LiTtLe MomEnTs AloNg ThE wAy ~*~ said...

Jason..??

JanJan, we love to have u as our housemates too...!!!!!!